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Folks, recently a friend of mine (a woman) got married to a man who's 5 years younger than her. She is 32 and he is 27.
I wanted to ask her if she has any difficulties adjusting to a younger hubby but thank God, I didn't coz it might seem inappropriate and would just remind her of her age  .
So, I'd like to know your opinion about that issue coz if someday I find myself in love with a younger man, I will know what to do. Dank je wel 
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Slightly older, hopefully wiser, absolutely prettier
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Kinanti Pinta,
5 years younger or older, what is the difference? I quess nothing.
Ok, when somebody is 15 and the other 20 there a difference, but do you think 32 and 27 will be a problem? I don't think so.
So don't worry, I think age does'nt matter after 25. 
Hilmar.
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- Let us live simply so that others may simply live -
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I was just asked by my friend last nite if 10 yrs difference would be a problem. He is 31 and the other girl is 21 yo. And I said there shouldnt be a problem as long as you guys get along well and there is a connection. Same things apply to younger guy with older women.
you mean like Demi Moore's toy boy Aston Kutcher? hehe
Hmmm.....the younger guy might find it a bit difficult in the relationship when he thinks the older woman has more power or education or even more successful than the guy for example.
Or even the other way around seeing that many young excutives males nowadays?
I dont really know any younger man that goes out with older woman. *shrugs...so thats wat i think..
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Pinta,
Age never matters unless u r physically fit to do anything ...and you have everything in common.....hehe...
Rgds
Aliakbar
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there's a saying that women grow older faster than men, that's why women are advised to find an older men or at least of the same age as them. and ali, what's the meaning of physically fit to do anything? and I don't think we should have everything in common, my gosh, wouldn't it be so boring no to have something to argue or discuss over? I've had my share of older boyfriends, now I want to try younger men or of the same age. So if you people say there's no problem with that, I might as well go ahead for the hunt!! Watch out, younger men, pinta is coming to get ya! 
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Is it age that matters or experience??
SEpp
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Hey guys,
To some extent - yeah - age does matter. If you have 15 years between you, what's going to happen if you're 30 and your partner's 45? You might want to go to 'happening' nightclubs and bars, dance, party, and socialise with people your age and your partner might prefer to opt for a "quiet night with a video" or a relaxed lunch with people his own age. Sometimes it seems older people with much younger partners and vice versa feel 'strange' in situations where they know they just don't 'fit in'. It seems cruel to put someone you care about in a position where they feel uncomfortable and you feel very much the opposite, but at the same time - you must realise what you really want - and consider whether or not the person you're with can enjoy and share those same experiences you do - that's a basic and fundamental part of a relationship.
It really is great if you have things in common - no doubt - it's excellent if you're in love. But sometimes you might wonder, 'damn, we're a generation apart'.
What happens when you still value sexual attraction? I'm not saying older people can't be attractive, but as a young man in his twenties, I have sexual relations with people in my age bracket and feel less attracted towards people who are many years my elder. If it works - it works - that's great - you're happy. But if you're starting to have doubts about your relationship... then maybe it's the age bracket kicking in.
-Cheers,
Tony
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This subject just came to my eyes through the -adequate- reaction of Tony. i have only to say this, from a personal view.
My mother has for already 25 years a happy and good relationship with a guy, only 2 years older then me. Maybe he is indeed a bit oldfashioned -doesn't like to go to clubs or discos, and knowing my mother, maybe his sexdrive is a bit less- but they are a perfect fit.
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in my opinion, and personal experience; age doesn't matter
I've had relationships with -10 and +10 years in difference of age...and guess what? what's exactly between -10 and +10? yep zero...so for me age doesn't matter
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Dear Pinta,
it's not the age that counts but the mind and the heart !!!
My husband is 9 years younger than I am, so I'm a very lucky woman 
We are together now for about 7 years and married for 1 year, and still as happy as in the beginning.
Friends of ours have an age difference of 18 years (he is 41, she is 23), and are together now for about 3 years and also still happy.
I think if you don't feel the age difference (in conversation e.d.) it doesn't matter, as long as you respect and trust eachother !!
Good luck with your "hunt"
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Hai Anita,
yes you are lucky, indeed. Thanks for sharing, your post is really motivating! Wish me more luck, okay?
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Sorry Kinanti Pinta,
I was out of the country for a few days ...
Ofcourse I wish you more luck ... !!!
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Well, a valid argument for choosing an elder Indonesian partner is for sure that Indonesians in general look sooo young to unaware orang bules.......
Some (married) mixed couples here. look quite extreme in regard of their age. In one of them, he is 30 (orang bule), and she is 32 (Indonesian). At the tramway station they automatically got 1 ˝ tickets, before he could say anything... That is one adult and one child. The age limit here is 16... hehe.
Once she was waiting for her husband in front of his workplace, and she lit a cigarette.. This provoked passers-by to make ugly comments about these smoking, foreign underage children. A well-thinking women even snapped her cigarette and threw it away!
An other, similar couple, had to stay in a hotel because they missed the last train. They got their identity cards checked. This is quite unusual here. The slightly embarrassed clerk made the situation even worse by excusing himself with: “You know, with all these pedophile stories...”
Salam, Juffy
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Hahaha! I can't stop laughing reading Juffy's story 
it's so funny yet embarrasing and the same time rather flattering, isn't it so to be thought younger than our real age? Thanks, juffy, for sharing the story. Do you have anymore tales to tell? 
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For me age is nothing more then a number. It's how you feel inside that's what's more important. I see a lot of young men and woman, that they dont act according their age. Well maybe beacuse they had a bad experience in their live that made them to be a little bit older than their friends, but that's ok.
What I think is, if you really love someone, it wont be matter if you have a difference in your age. It comes to communications, and understanding from both side. I still can remember when my son at his age of 7, and his teacher wants to talk to me, not because he did something nasty at school, because my son very smart for his age. Ok..I thought I'll come. And when I was there, he looked at me and looked at my son, and said to him : Mitch I said I want to talk to your mother or father, not to your sister...
Right..well that's when I thought, here we go again I have to defence myself because I'm looking younger than my age is. Till now, people just dont want to believe if I told them that I'm 42 going on 43. Now I have my own company, still got that problem nearly everyday. People that I talked to on the phone, they always said..ow..could you give your mother on the phone please..? Yeah right my mother is in Singapore.
Or, if we planed to have a meeting somewhere, they talked to me nicely and suddenly after a few minutes: "Is your mother still coming? "
So that is why I dont believe in age, that's only a number. It's how you make your self, if you feel old at age 16 then you will be old, and acting like an old people.
It's not the first time that I went to a disco with my son and his friends, and they all enjoyed my company. Other people think..what she's doing with all that young men, but the boys they all love it that the mother of their friend showing some interest in the things they do/did. One of them told me, that he wishes that his mother do that, show some interest in the things he do.
I didn't go to the disco that much anymore, but they still asked me if they want to see a movie or something, or sometimes just go out to eat somewhere, they still asked me that, and I go with them if I have the time, I enjoy their company. In that way I know much more about young live, what they think, how they feel, what's make them tick!!
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Mmmm, im 21years old and my girlfriend is 27years.
Nobody has a problem with it they say.
But you never know what they thinking! 
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Hei JoostH,
so what ... what they think, if YOU are happy ... it doesn't matter what people think !!
If they think bad, they are probably jealous !! If not ...... they are good friends !!
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If you are good enough, you are old enough...
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Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.
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dont get me wrong Anita. I dont care about what people thing of me and my girlfriend. We the most happy persons in the world, and that doesnt change because people think strange of us.
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Dear Joost,
and that is the way it should be !!!!!
I acually ment it more for the people who have their doubts.
Myself ... I'm very happy ... (read above) !! 
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Age is something that doesn´t matter, unless you are a cheese.
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 how about the sex life then? I mean.. what if the woman hit the age of menopause while the man is still .. let say.. "booming" and vice versa..
Is it gonna be such a big deal then in the end? Because one just cannot keep up with the other half
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Hi, I am a male. Being "under" or "over" aged has never been an issue in my relation for either. Behaving "young" or "old" now is no guarantee in how the relation might be in later years. Yours and his expecatation over the relation might be fully different then, or have become more united!! When you can agree on main issues now jump aboard in the life ride . Afterwards you can look on a happy time. You might be sad it did not continue, but aAt least there have been some happy years which otherwise surely have been passed without love and happiness!
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