My heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad time in your life. Yes, I agree what a terrible start to your dream of living in Indonesia.
Life can sometimes seem so unfair and so incomprehenisible.
Like Jantje and Veer01, I wish you and your family the strength to cope with this terrible disaster and that the coming weeks will bring some joy to your now broken hearts.
If you wish to email me for a chat my email is pamelajoyfuge
I plan to back in Indonesia next June/July and hope I have the opportunity to meet you and your family.
Pamela Sydney Australia.